Taking care of a family member with Alzheimer’s can be tough, but knowing a few simple tricks can make things easier. For example, if your loved one starts yelling, throwing things, or acting aggressively, don’t yell back or try to stop them directly—it’ll just make things worse.
First, remove anything dangerous, like glass objects or knives. Then, try to distract them with something they enjoy, like playing their favorite old songs or giving them a stuffed toy to vent their frustration. It’s also a good idea to keep something like a pillow stuffed with old newspapers nearby, so they have something safe to hit.
If they keep asking the same questions or hiding things, don’t argue or get upset. This usually doesn’t help. Instead, try small strategies like giving them a “treasure box” filled with shiny trinkets and telling them it’s something special.
You can also keep extra pairs of items they often hide, like socks, so it’s no big deal when one pair goes missing. If they like to carry things around, putting them in an apron with lots of pockets can keep everything in one place.
For those who wander or get restless at night, locking doors isn’t the best solution—it can make them more upset. Instead, help them burn energy during the day with walks or light activities, so they’re more likely to sleep at night.
You can install door alarms or attach a tracker to their shoes to prevent them from wandering off. If they like to walk, create a “loop” in the house with colorful arrows on the floor. Walking the loop will make them feel like they’ve already gone far.
When it comes to communication, keep it simple. Don’t explain too much or try to correct them—it’s frustrating for both of you. If they ask, “Where’s my mom?”, just go along and say, “She went to get your favorite cake. Let’s wait for her together.”
This works much better than correcting them. And if they don’t understand your words, show them pictures of actions, like washing hands or drinking water, to make it clearer.
make sure your home is safe. Cover sharp furniture edges with padding, lock up dangerous items like cleaning products, and keep some chocolate handy. Giving them a small treat when they’re upset can help calm them down.
Remember, “less explaining, more distraction” and “it’s easier to adapt the environment than to change the person.” With these tips, caregiving can feel a little less overwhelming.